Have you ever should on yourself?
I feel like I do, just about every day!
If I even think about saying “no” to someone there is immediately a courtroom convened in my mind. And I begin to privately put myself on trial as to all the reasons I “should” do whatever the person is asking or inviting me to do.
What’s maybe even worse is that I should on others, as well, pretty much every day. I have secret job descriptions for pretty much every person I meet. And when they don’t live up to my expectations … I should all over them. And they don’t even know it!
SHOULD HAPPENS is all about moving from that
should life to a good life.
This happens by becoming aware of those shoulds that sit on your shoulder and convene courtrooms in your mind. This human parable will help become aware and then lead you to freedom from those insidious shoulds.
Here are four more articles that will grant you a bigger picture of the book and how this leadership parable could allow you to live your best life!
- “We should on God” – SHOULD HAPPENS – WEEK 4 October 11, 2019 in Church, Faith, Should, videoThe last should of them all … This is why … – The person you work with or your neighbor makes jokes, or is cynical about God. – The person you go to school with says they are an atheist. – Your husband, wife, brother or sister, aunt or uncle said “I’m out” and quit going to church. It’s because at some point in life God did not act like we think He should. Shoulding on God is not a religious thing. It’s not a church thing. It’s not a Christian thing. It’s a human thing. Everyone single person on this planet thinks they know how God “should” act. If I do this … God will do this. It’s like He is required to do this if I do this and then He doesn’t.
And we “should” all over Him.This message talks about how we can continue to trust God, even when we don’t understand or agree with God.
- “OTHERS SHOULD ON ME” – SHOULD HAPPENS – WEEK 3 September 25, 2019 in Curious Living, Leadership, Should, video
Have you ever run out of gas in your car? You’re driving along – no problem and suddenly you’re about to be out of gas, or you are out of gas. Several years ago, I was driving my mobile office around Phoenix and I am not sure how it happened but at one moment the gas gauge read half full and just a minute later it was sitting on E.
My first tendency was to question the reading. This can’t be right, I was just half full a few minutes ago. How can I be on “E?” So, I ignored the reading for about 10 miles and the needle started to move below E! How can something be below E? Isn’t empty, empty? Well, to make a long story medium length … you can’t drive on “E” for long.
Here is my question for you … have you ever run out of gas? Not in your car … but in life? Have you ever been at the place in your life where you have been going so hard for so long and doing so many things. You are caring for so many people and carrying so many other peoples burdens … that you are just running on empty? What about right now?
Let’s say this gas gauge could register what’s in your heart, what’s it reading right now?
Is it on “F” for full? Or on “E” for empty? Or somewhere in-between?
If you are you less than half full and headed towards empty … what caused you to feel empty and out of gas? Maybe it was the unrealistic expectations put on you by others?
The shoulds of others.
In this message we talk about how to kindly but confidently say “not now” to the shoulds of others. And begin to move from a should life to a good life.
- “I Should On Others” – SHOULD HAPPENS – WEEK 2 September 20, 2019 in Curious Living, Leadership, Should
We know it’s normal and perfectly acceptable to have a job description at work? But have you ever thought about how you have secret job descriptions for pretty much everyone you meet? We have things that we expect “others” to do for us. And they are usually completely unaware of these expectations!
Here is the simple succession of how we should on others.
- We have secret job descriptions and expectations of other people.
2. These people are completely unaware of our expectations of them.
3. They quickly fail to meet our secret expectations.
4. We get angry with them and should all over them.
In this message we dive into how We Should On Others. And we learn how we can should on others less and begin to move from a should life to a good life!
When we value people,
the way God values people,
we should on people, less.
- “I Should On Myself” – SHOULD HAPPENS – WEEK 1 September 12, 2019 in Curious Living, Leadership, Should
Do you ever should on yourself?
I have shoulds that sit on my shoulder and constantly convene courtrooms in my mind. If I even think about saying “no” to someone who asks me to do something. I immediately put myself on trial and begin to present to myself evidence for all the reasons I should do what the person is asking me to do!
This message considers how we all live in the shoulds. And it gives us perspective on how to move from a should life to a good life!
The SHOULD HAPPENS book is available at all Parkview Christian Church campuses in Chicagoland this weekend.
And nationwide on Friday, September 27th!