“I Should On Others” – SHOULD HAPPENS – WEEK 2

We know it’s normal and perfectly acceptable to have a job description at work? But have you ever thought about how you have secret job descriptions for pretty much everyone you meet? We have things that we expect “others” to do for us. And they are usually completely unaware of these expectations!

Here is the simple succession of how we should on others.

  1. We have secret job descriptions and expectations of other people.

2.    These people are completely unaware of our expectations of them.

3.    They quickly fail to meet our secret expectations.

4.    We get angry with them and should all over them.

In this message we dive into how We Should On Others. And we learn how we can should on others less and begin to move from a should life to a good life!

When we value people,

the way God values people, 

we should on people, less.

“I Should On Myself” – SHOULD HAPPENS – WEEK 1

Do you ever should on yourself?

I do.

I have shoulds that sit on my shoulder and constantly convene courtrooms in my mind. If I even think about saying “no” to someone who asks me to do something. I immediately put myself on trial and begin to present to myself evidence for all the reasons I should do what the person is asking me to do!

This message considers how we all live in the shoulds. And it gives us perspective on how to move from a should life to a good life!

The SHOULD HAPPENS book is available at all Parkview Christian Church campuses in Chicagoland this weekend.

And nationwide on Friday, September 27th!

THE SHOULDS ARE COMING – September 7th!!!

After nearly a decade of wrestling with the shoulds, I have spent the last 6 months writing SHOULD HAPPENS.

This is a human parable.

If you’re like most people, you live in the ‘should’s. You are constantly chained by ideas of how your life should be, of what you should accomplish, of what you should be better at. You may feel anxiety about not meeting your shoulds each and every day.

What if you could escape that anxiety.

In this book, we’ll follow Tom Should – a person very much like me, and perhaps you.

He’s paralyzed on a daily basis by his shoulds – the larger-than-life ideals imposed upon him. They make it impossible for him to relax and enjoy the life he has, because he’s constantly comparing himself to others, and imagining the life he thinks he should have.

We’ll follow Tom on his journey from a should life to a good life from resenting his life for all the ways it doesn’t meet his expectations, to embracing, enjoying, and treasuring the life he does have each and every day.

Letting loose of our shoulds is not easy. To many of us, it might feel like accepting the unacceptable, becoming less, giving up on our ideals, or thwarting our ambition. For that reason, we might never surrender our shoulds – until we see the power of doing so in action, through stories like Tom’s.

In this leadership parable, we’ll see how it’s possible to live our best lives in ways we never dreamed of. We just have to let go of many of our ‘shoulds.

Tom’s story appears religious at first. And in a way, it is. He suffers from the shoulds that many religious people experience – the shoulds of trying to live a perfect life.

But the process Tom goes through as he learns to love himself and his life is a process all of us go through, religious or not. This is a human parable. The shoulds are blind to age, ethnicity, income and gender and they represent a pressure that all people face. It’s a process of learning firsthand what is truly important – and seeing what you miss when you live in the shoulds.

I hope that this book will help everyone who reads it. I know writing it helped me.

SHOULD HAPPENS will be available on the weekend of September 7th / 8th. I will be at Parkview Christian Church in Chicagoland launching this SHOULD HAPPENS book and teaching series.

Pitfalls Of A Second Hand Faith.

Do you ever wonder if God actually exists? I do. And pretty much every person I have ever met has questions about the existence of God.

What happens when we question the existence of God is we question the “view” or “version” of God that we grew up with.

When people lose faith and decide to leave God behind what we are really leaving is the “version” of God we grew up with. So, here is a fair question …

Who handed you, your view of God?

How do you know what you know about God?

Was it your parents, pastor or favorite author? If so, that is great and can be an amazing gift to your life. But when everything we know about God comes to us from someone else … we are in danger of carrying a surrogate or second hand faith.

Surrogate” – DEF: substitute, replacement, stand in

A surrogate is a person who carries something for another person. 

How do we move from a surrogate or second hand faith to a place where we own our own faith?

This is what we strive to uncover as we dive into in this message from Parkview Christian Church in Chicagoland.

What should I be considering during communion?

Jesus made it very clear to his overwhelmed disciples that communion is time of remembrance.

I Cor. 11:23-26 – The Lord Jesus, on the night he was betrayed, took bread, 24 and when he had given thanks, he broke it and said, “This is my body, which is for you; do this in remembrance of me.” 25 In the same way, after supper he took the cup, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood; do this, whenever you drink it, in remembrance of me.” 26 For whenever you eat this bread and drink this cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death until he comes.

The very need for the word “remember” signifies that we tend to forget things. And I believe a big part of our stress, anxiety and sense of feeling overwhelmed is because we have forgotten some things about ourselves and our God that we should remember!

So, what are we supposed to be “remembering” during a time of communion?

What should our minds be considering as we take the bread and juice that represents the body and blood of Jesus?

What should we be thinking about …

  • As the trays are passing by
  • The lights are low
  • The room is quiet
  • And most of our heads are bowed


WorkJoy & Pancakes – The Personal Side

In part one of this article we realized there’s really no right or wrong way to eat a pancake.
There is not one side that tastes better.

Neither side of a pancake is more important.
Both sides matter.

Likewise, if one side gets burned it affects the taste of the other side.

It’s the same way when it comes to your work.

To experience joy at work there are two equally important sides.

You should make your work a better place,
and your workplace should make you a better person.

In part one of this article we considered how to evaluate if a person is making their workplace better. We looked at this subject from the perspective of the organization.

Today, we are taking a look at the personal side. We are going to discover several ways you can become a better person as you make your work a better place.

Here are three ways you can find value from the personal side of the work relationship:

  • Work in teams. This will make your product better.

It doesn’t matter what you are creating, a team will enable you and others to accomplish more with less stress (eventually) and in less time.

  • Work in strengths. This will make your potential better.

It doesn’t matter what you are creating or leading, if you create and lead from your strengths (delegating your weaknesses) you will produce better things, in less time and with less stress.

  • Work ahead. This will make your process better.

Good things happen in the margin. When you “work ahead” you make your career, calling, family, friendships and personal life taste better.

WorkJoy occurs when you add value to a place and that place adds value to you as a person.

Who you become is more important than what you do.

Decide today to strive for double-sided WorkJoy!